colour me
Thursday 23 January 2014
Sunday 5 January 2014
not...
colour me not with your dull pastel pastes
colour me not with blue
colour me not with fate
I might live in the wind but there motion exists
emotion is deep and there is colour
colour of life and enlightenment
colour me not with bleakness
colour me not with society
I might be blown here and there
because the 'mis' and my understanding always seem to meet in your world
i am a child of the wind and it blows
but I will sure blow you away
colour me with heart
colour me with resilience
colour me with art
colour me not with you
-Juliato-julietdaniel-jayday
Saturday 4 January 2014
Thursday 2 January 2014
heartbreak
i always say lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do.
well now I believe it more than ever.
its at that moment when you have really really truly have had enough.
hold on they said,its just matter of time they said,its a misunderstanding they said...well this lil piggy is bookin out!
*shout out to all em ladies still holding on to the"...its gna happen soon" lie,maybe next time i'l be part of you but just not this time.
NEVER LIE TO YOURSELF!
this may sound out of context but you can chose to apply it in any situation it fits in.
lotsa love <3
Saturday 28 December 2013
Inside
Hey, hi again. it's been a while since I posted anything...been busy with you know life things. Here are some thoughts I've had and one of those lil reality realization convos one has with themselves(or as I like to put it "between the heart and the brain")yea...here's what I think:
When you look deep within yourself, you think you will
find peace and some kind of lovely dovey stuff like that.
Well the truth is that what is deep within us is …junk!
Yes, junk. We carry a lot of things which are not necessary in us. We go about
this life with masses of stuff in our inner cores, stuff we don’t need or even
want to need.
We carry those little recordings of disagreements and
arguments we had with people which usually lead to one blowing up in an anger
scene at usually an inappropriate moment. We carry those hurtful words that one
girl or guy said to you when you broke up, we carry those epic moments of
disappointment when someone lets you down, we carry worry, hate, undeserving
and misapplied love, heartbreak memories, fear of failure, loss and those
feelings of self-doubt.all of it junk! All crowding one’s inner self and not
leaving a square centimeter of space for the necessary and important stuff, like content,
love, inner joy, motivation, courage and yes peace.
It is easier to let enlightenment in when junk is low.
When I say junk is low I mean when there is less necessary things inside you
which usually block the very ones need to be present. This junk we have as
humans is very hard to lessen and eventually make disappear (well…in my
experience). Even though it’s hard to just let go of these things we sometimes
mislabel as parts of our makings it is vital that one keeps…as I said… the junk
low!
there is usually that mistake people make of saying "it makes me who I am" no! it does not, you are who you are because of your choices in life. Choices in the past, choices you are making now and those you most of the time don't know you will make in the future. Just that choices, and not the junk/baggage you carry around. so we just need to analyze what necessary and what is not in the junk we have inside and then just...let go.
Let go.
Let go. Just let things go. The out of sight out of
mind thing works in these circumstances.
Saturday 23 November 2013
balance and friendzonification
its pretty simple...
you like someone they don't like you back as much as you like them...or...
someone likes you but you don't like them back as much as they do
then there is that perfect moment where you like someone and they actually like you back just as much...then its happily ever after right? well maybe but in most instances its never the right balance. between the two people there is always the one who likes or loves the other more. its never a balance and equal amount of feelings. its so unfortunate that the one who loves more is usually at a disadvantage because they are more exposed to hurt and disappointment. how?
the one who loves more does those lil extra things for the one who loves less than the other. he or she can drop everything to help their partner or just be with them. sometimes they are mislabeled as clingy... sad hey.
the one who loves more easily forgives the one who loves less most of the time even if its something really bad... friends usually see this as being stupid.
the one who loves more is usually the one who keeps the relationship workin by communicating more, organizing to spend time together and such.
and by doing all these things the one who loves more is at risk of being hurt hard when things don't work out because they put in a lot of themselves in that relationship and gave a lot so they will be hurt more.
don't get me wrong here, the one who loves less does truly love the other one and is active in the relationship, but what am arriving at is that is that this person is not at the same level of love or like(whatever the case may be) as the other one. some couples don't even realize they are not at the same level until they come to some difficult point or milestone in their relationship then it becomes apparent who is who in the relationship. some couples know from the onset which one of them loves more and they work on balancing the scales and they just adapt.
well if you are one of those ones who know here is what I think:
if you are the one who loves more... be careful. I am all for the "love free and hard nation" but all am saying is protect your oh so very precious heart by some means.
and if you are the one who loves less... do not take advantage of the one who loves more, try to reach the one who loves more's level, be nice and understand them.
and then we come to that friend zone bit
here is how I understand this friend zone (FZ) business:
girl n guy become friends then one wants more while the other just wants the friend part. the one who wants more will do anything for this one that's just on the friend tip, hoping they would realize what a great couple they would make. when I say does anything I mean anything, helping them with shopping, carrying bags, transporting them(sometimes even to go see the guy or girl they really like), buying lunch or dinners, helping with schoolwork or paying for things and such. basically being at that person's beck and call all because you like them so much you just cant say NO!
its a sad reality.
its a similar to the first scenario I just described, the difference is in the first one, they are in an actual relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend while the FZ one they are just friends. believe it or not the FZ one happens to many many pips and it usually doesn't end well...with end of friendships or pity bf/gf relationships or worse!
off course they are exceptions where its all rainbows, lilies and unicorns after they both realize they like each other the same way after confession their undying love for each other...wait, I think there is a tv show bout this kinda confessions.yah anyway regarding the FZ,if you know u r FZ someone do not abuse them! and to you the friend zoned one- persistence might help your situation but you know you will have to give up at some point!
I am no expert or anything, am just recording my observations and stuff like that. its tough out there people...a lil empathy could go a long way.
my two thebe's worth :)
you like someone they don't like you back as much as you like them...or...
someone likes you but you don't like them back as much as they do
then there is that perfect moment where you like someone and they actually like you back just as much...then its happily ever after right? well maybe but in most instances its never the right balance. between the two people there is always the one who likes or loves the other more. its never a balance and equal amount of feelings. its so unfortunate that the one who loves more is usually at a disadvantage because they are more exposed to hurt and disappointment. how?
the one who loves more does those lil extra things for the one who loves less than the other. he or she can drop everything to help their partner or just be with them. sometimes they are mislabeled as clingy... sad hey.
the one who loves more easily forgives the one who loves less most of the time even if its something really bad... friends usually see this as being stupid.
the one who loves more is usually the one who keeps the relationship workin by communicating more, organizing to spend time together and such.
and by doing all these things the one who loves more is at risk of being hurt hard when things don't work out because they put in a lot of themselves in that relationship and gave a lot so they will be hurt more.
don't get me wrong here, the one who loves less does truly love the other one and is active in the relationship, but what am arriving at is that is that this person is not at the same level of love or like(whatever the case may be) as the other one. some couples don't even realize they are not at the same level until they come to some difficult point or milestone in their relationship then it becomes apparent who is who in the relationship. some couples know from the onset which one of them loves more and they work on balancing the scales and they just adapt.
well if you are one of those ones who know here is what I think:
if you are the one who loves more... be careful. I am all for the "love free and hard nation" but all am saying is protect your oh so very precious heart by some means.
and if you are the one who loves less... do not take advantage of the one who loves more, try to reach the one who loves more's level, be nice and understand them.
and then we come to that friend zone bit
here is how I understand this friend zone (FZ) business:
girl n guy become friends then one wants more while the other just wants the friend part. the one who wants more will do anything for this one that's just on the friend tip, hoping they would realize what a great couple they would make. when I say does anything I mean anything, helping them with shopping, carrying bags, transporting them(sometimes even to go see the guy or girl they really like), buying lunch or dinners, helping with schoolwork or paying for things and such. basically being at that person's beck and call all because you like them so much you just cant say NO!
its a sad reality.
its a similar to the first scenario I just described, the difference is in the first one, they are in an actual relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend while the FZ one they are just friends. believe it or not the FZ one happens to many many pips and it usually doesn't end well...with end of friendships or pity bf/gf relationships or worse!
off course they are exceptions where its all rainbows, lilies and unicorns after they both realize they like each other the same way after confession their undying love for each other...wait, I think there is a tv show bout this kinda confessions.yah anyway regarding the FZ,if you know u r FZ someone do not abuse them! and to you the friend zoned one- persistence might help your situation but you know you will have to give up at some point!
I am no expert or anything, am just recording my observations and stuff like that. its tough out there people...a lil empathy could go a long way.
my two thebe's worth :)
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