its pretty simple...
you like someone they don't like you back as much as you like them...or...
someone likes you but you don't like them back as much as they do
then there is that perfect moment where you like someone and they actually like you back just as much...then its happily ever after right? well maybe but in most instances its never the right balance. between the two people there is always the one who likes or loves the other more. its never a balance and equal amount of feelings. its so unfortunate that the one who loves more is usually at a disadvantage because they are more exposed to hurt and disappointment. how?
the one who loves more does those lil extra things for the one who loves less than the other. he or she can drop everything to help their partner or just be with them. sometimes they are mislabeled as clingy... sad hey.
the one who loves more easily forgives the one who loves less most of the time even if its something really bad... friends usually see this as being stupid.
the one who loves more is usually the one who keeps the relationship workin by communicating more, organizing to spend time together and such.
and by doing all these things the one who loves more is at risk of being hurt hard when things don't work out because they put in a lot of themselves in that relationship and gave a lot so they will be hurt more.
don't get me wrong here, the one who loves less does truly love the other one and is active in the relationship, but what am arriving at is that is that this person is not at the same level of love or like(whatever the case may be) as the other one. some couples don't even realize they are not at the same level until they come to some difficult point or milestone in their relationship then it becomes apparent who is who in the relationship. some couples know from the onset which one of them loves more and they work on balancing the scales and they just adapt.
well if you are one of those ones who know here is what I think:
if you are the one who loves more... be careful. I am all for the "love free and hard nation" but all am saying is protect your oh so very precious heart by some means.
and if you are the one who loves less... do not take advantage of the one who loves more, try to reach the one who loves more's level, be nice and understand them.
and then we come to that friend zone bit
here is how I understand this friend zone (FZ) business:
girl n guy become friends then one wants more while the other just wants the friend part. the one who wants more will do anything for this one that's just on the friend tip, hoping they would realize what a great couple they would make. when I say does anything I mean anything, helping them with shopping, carrying bags, transporting them(sometimes even to go see the guy or girl they really like), buying lunch or dinners, helping with schoolwork or paying for things and such. basically being at that person's beck and call all because you like them so much you just cant say NO!
its a sad reality.
its a similar to the first scenario I just described, the difference is in the first one, they are in an actual relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend while the FZ one they are just friends. believe it or not the FZ one happens to many many pips and it usually doesn't end well...with end of friendships or pity bf/gf relationships or worse!
off course they are exceptions where its all rainbows, lilies and unicorns after they both realize they like each other the same way after confession their undying love for each other...wait, I think there is a tv show bout this kinda confessions.yah anyway regarding the FZ,if you know u r FZ someone do not abuse them! and to you the friend zoned one- persistence might help your situation but you know you will have to give up at some point!
I am no expert or anything, am just recording my observations and stuff like that. its tough out there people...a lil empathy could go a long way.
my two thebe's worth :)
